I’m 26 and aside from dating two guys for a couple months each, I haven’t had any luck in the love department. I’m in school and finishing my Nursing pre-reqs, have a great sense of humor and love sarcasm/dry humor, which is why I can joke around with guys more than women. Most women I know don’t get my humor.. not sure why that is.
I’d love to find someone who is educated (as I am), dynamic, takes care of their body, doesn’t go to the club every week, someone I can lounge on the couch with while we’re both reading. That type of thing. A companion.
I’m not even thinking about a family or kids in the future. Not even sure those things are for me. Why is it so hard?
I meant to say that aside from dating those 2 guys, I haven’t had a relationship in 2 years.
Some interesting responses, especially from the ladies. I have to disagree as I don’t think my standards are too high. 26 is still very young for a family. Maybe 10 or so years down the road I’d like those things, but not now. That doesn’t mean I don’t want a relationship, though. Thanks for the positive responses, maybe I just haven’t met the right one.
Kara, you call this bragging?
Thanks, Yur Mama! You’re right, I have met a lot of white collar guys who were shallow, so education is not everything. Hopefully the right guy will come along for both of us.
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just havent found the right guy have some fun relax and it will happen when you least expect it!
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a guy that does as you say and who likes being told what to do!!!
maybe you are just too demanding…
how young will you go u sound perfect for me
there are hundreds of possible reasons. but i dont know you, so i will just say tht you havnt met the right guy yet.
quit bragging about yourself. geez. you probably haven’t found anyone bc in person you’re probably full of yourself. All you mention is how great you are. Think of areas you might need to work on, and see if that improves your game.
Matilda, I’m a guy just like you’re describing and I can honestly say most of the time you women ignore guys like me because (it seems) you think we’re boring or old-fashioned. There are probably guys all around you that fit your description that you don’t even notice because you’re focusing your attentions on a different type of guy.
I’m a man. Whether I’m intelligent or attractive is entirely open to interpretation! But seriously, I don’t think it’s something you can look for. Just try and enjoy yourself by going out when you can whether it’s to cooking classes, tennis lessons or whatever. Chances are you will meet someone
I could ask you the reverse, why is it so hard for an attractive and smart male to find a woman!? If you are a sexy and smart woman, do not worry, you’ll find someone. In the mean time, love yourself and dont grab onto the first guy who shows any attention. The sexiest thing about a woman is confidence! Good luck
there are guys, though, if you make a lot of money and want a man who makes the same or more it may never happen
Those guys don’t want a woman that can think for themselves?
You’re in a tough boat. Can’t you find some male-nurses to hit it up with?
Well.. The fact that you are not thinking about family or kids is a little off..
this may be why “good” men are not interested in you, because people can sense that you dont want a family, therefore they interpret it as not wanting a long term relationship.
You can try lookin in new places.. plus, once you are out of school and working you will have a whole new world to look at, new places, new faces.
Maybe they’re to arrogant.
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OMG ! Are you for real? You sound like the perfect woman, or at least the woman i am looking for.
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Maybe you haven’t found a guy yet because you have high standards. or maybe the guys are to impressed by your personality and they get scared…
I think its hard for a smart and attractive woman to find a man with all of those charecteristic that your looking for cause you need to be more laid back. There probebly will at lease one guy out there for you with mabey one or two traits your looking for. Cause a person is not perfect you can’t expect your perfect lover to come falling from the sky. There will be some flaws but you must be able to understand. Its not hard…You just have to know that theres no perfect person. Go with someone you feel comfortable with and don’t look for flaws.
*Thannks~~
It is easy for young, smart, and attractive women to find a man, It only takes a day to meet 4 guys that would marry you.
Your standards are unrealistic; you need to lower your standards; that’s all. Guys date down for sex or the hope of sex, but they don’t marry down. You are making the same mistake so many women make. You want to marry one of the best guys you can date and, except for sex, they are out of your league. With them, it is either you are an easy piece or else it was nice meeting you.
Well, by “finding a man” you mean a “soulmate”. For me that’s years down the road. I went for 30 years and only had 2 “relationships” which lasted together a total of 3 weeks. Then I was involved in a hellish marriage, and an only now starting to come out of my shell. For men, sex takes a much more important role in a relationship. Women instinctively want a protector and provider. Good luck…..
your concerned about status, how things look to others, instead of genuinely having fun.
maybe its because guys see you as ‘one of the lads’.
or as you say becasue you are educated they feel a little scared or you.
It sounds to me as if you make too many preconditions and have way too high (perhaps unrealistic) expectations in the relationship department. If you combine all that with a strong focus on career development (a good thing, btw), it’s not too difficult to see where the problem lies. The fault, dear asker, is not in the stars, but in ourselves. The answer to your posted question lies within. Know thyself.
lol, you sound like me (and I swear I don’t mean that egotistically).. aside from a crappy 7 month marriage I haven’t had a “real” relationship for almost 8 years! I do have kids though and for that reason I don’t go out much so that could be a huge part of it.
BUT… enough about me… I can tell you that it’s because they are intimidated by you. It all goes back to that “traditional gender role” crap. Men were brought up thinking they were the providers and women were supposed to do everything else and make everyone else happy and never think of herself even once. Granted, a lot of men DON’T think that way now, but a lot still do. Basically men want to feel “needed” and when a woman is smart and independent, they think “well what does she need ME for?!”
I’ve tried explaining the emotional aspect, companionship and all that to some of the guys I’ve dated, but it’s like.. start talking about emotions and their eyes just sort of glaze over. (Like mine get when anyone starts talking about math). Not to mention the fact that there just aren’t that many “smart” (smart and educated are two completely separate and sometimes very misleading things) guys out there! I’ve found that the white collar, “educated” type are pretty damn shallow when it comes down to it. If they can’t impress you with their car or title, they’re totally lost!
Anyway, I wish you luck. Speaking for myself though, I’m holding out for one of those guys I see on “Wife Swap” all the time, specifically, the ones who do laundry! I know they’re out there!