This is kinda long so be prepared to read
its hard for me to open up to people.im 14.my dad was abusive and a drug addict and my mom was never home.When i was seven my parents divorced and a year or so later my mom went to nursing school.shes always had her nose in a textbook and never there for me.I literally was alone all day.Even on birthdays I wouldnt see her because she was at school or working.She’s always stressed and I hate to be around her.I never talk to my dad.I have two older brothers who hate me but I have a good few friends at school.I cant trust most of them.I get told i have a sense of humor.I noticed im always talking really fast.I prefer to be alone.I spent my entire summer alone.I stayed up all night doing nothing and sleeping during the days.I’m out of school alot because i feel like it and i often take advil for no reason.I have no sense of direction with anything.i wait until last minute for everything.I dont mean to sound like a dramaqueen..i’m just lost.
i think about running away alot. I just want to start over. i hate my life and my family. i don’t mean to sound like an attention seeker but i can’t take anything anymore. i’d never really harm myself..sometimes ill just start crying for no reason and be sad for a while..im sorry..what do i do?
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I am in that kind of situation too..
The best thing to do is find some friends, that you can do anything with..
Just motivate yourself and strive on..
your head probably often feels fuzzy to huh. and you probably feel like you’re spinning.
i know you’ll be mad if you get a bunch of “it’s normal answers”
but honestly, it is normal. it’s not normal what has happened to you, but for some, you just have to learn to stand on your own two feet. you can’t always rely on your parents to be there for you.
find someone you can confide in and keep them close.
seek positive influences. stay away from drugs, like your father should have, even cigarettes and alcohol. they are the most dangerous.
and your mother feels like a faliure so she is trying to replace her feelings of faliure by studiying her eyes out.
but you can rise against this chain of events so your kids don’t have to face this.
Call a therapist. It may sound a bit queer but it is a good idea.
Don’t take advil for no reason. Thats just plane dumb.
You have a lot to live for. When you turn 16. Move out of the house with some friends or something. And don’t start doing drugs or anything. That will just ruin your life altogether.
Call child support. Tell them you have an abusive father. Just be aware they will probably take you into foster care or take hi from you.
Talk to your mother and tell her how you feel. She probably doesnt realise what you are going through now.
Remember, it could ALWAYS be worse.
Good luck ayye.
Jack.
If what you say about your parents is true, then you’re no drama queen. Do you have a nice grandparent, aunt, or uncle? Call one of them up and ask if you could spend some time together. Find a reliable adult that you can depend on and bond with.
Don’t be sorry. It’s alright to be upset about things. You’ve had a tough time. There’s nothing wrong with you, you’re just overwhelmed.
You need to talk to a teacher you trust about these things. He/She will help you get in touch with a counselor at school.
Or go directly to the counseling office at your school. They should help you manage these sad feelings. It will really help. Try not to be embarrassed, those people are there to help and wont ever make fun of your for it.
I know it will help, because it helped me when I was a teenager.
Try not to take Advil when you don’t need it. Advil wont help you when you feel sad or stressed. It may hurt to be sad or lost, but Advil doesn’t help those things. It can also make problems for your stomach or liver in the long run.
Please take my advice, I think it will help you to talk to a counselor or teacher. Hang in there, you’ve done great so far!
First off, I am sorry to hear about all the stuff in your life. If I were in your positions right now, I would find a close friend, if you truly have a hard time opening up, just choose one person you can trust and try to talk to them. You should definitely stop taking advil and just wait. I know that is the most annoying thing to hear, but really just wait. Keep going to school and try your hardest to get scholarships to college. Do not run away, because that only leads to more problems. As for your parents, I do not know about your dad, but it sounds like your mom was working hard to support you, so don’t just throw it away and skip school or run away. As for your sense of humor and talking fast, I know what it is, it is a defense mechanism you developed to not have to deal with your problems and just dismiss them with a joke or talk quickly so others do not have a chance to reply to something you said because you do not want to hear them talking to you about your problems. What you truly need is to talk about it, even if its just once and only scratching the surface, you will feel better after you talk. And finally, I would recommend you find some more friends and try to start living life like it seems you want to. The best way to start over is to confront and extinguish your problems; running away from them only leaves them behind to catch up to you later.
I am sorry about the length of my response, but i hope it helped you, if only a little. I was once in a similar situation, and I wish I had dealt with it the way I just told you to. The way i dealt with it got me in a much worse position, so please take my advice, and even thought you don’t know me, just trust me this one time and you will not regret it.
Hey Rebecca
Life is tough. I can relate to a lot of what you’re describing. It’s hard also to concentrate on anything that seems long term like school and studying when you’re in a constant state of crisis.
It’s a basic human need to belong. When that is thrown off, everything else is a tad off balanced, so everything you’re feeling is justified. Everyone needs a little love and attention. To be cared for and heard and to be there for others as well.
I don’t have a quick fix answer, because it was a long journey for me. What I can tell you is that the decisions that you make now will shape the way everything else goes for you.
At 14 I was totally taking care of myself and it was tough, but I was extra careful. I didn’t follow the crowd cause most of “the crowd” had families or some sort of support system to catch them. I focused on my education cause that was the key to getting independent. Now I haven’t always made the right choices and I may have missed out on some “fun” but I have no regrets.
Stay focused. Channel all your energy into beating this and defying the mold that people may want to put you in. Finish school so you can get a respectable job and set you on the right course.
Also don’t be ashamed to seek help. Having the support of a school teacher or counselor to help open some doors for you, or just help work things through can be priceless.
Kinda heavy but so is life. Feel free to email.