favorite podcaster, Tim Henson of Distorted View Daily. I listened to his show and I was quite shocked. I do not believe that Mr. Henson is a God fearing man and his show reflects this. It is crude and obscene in its attempts at humor. I was quite shocked to find out that my sister listened to this brand of comedy. I thought that she was more moral than that.
In any case, I am the legal beneficiary of her life insurance policy. While the ,000 isn’t enough to make a difference in my life I’m not sure that it should go to someone like Mr. Henson.
I’m torn because I promised her that I would send it to Mr. Henson but that was before I listened to his show. Now I am considering donating it to a charity. Our local nursing home has a charity drive coming up to help buy life extending medicines for the elderly.
Should I donate the money to that or give it to Mr. Henson like my sister wanted?
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Donate it to charity or do what you think is best with the insurance money. Perhaps this Mr. Henson “razzle-dazzled” your sister. If she was really serious about giving her money to this person, she would have put it in her will when she was of sound mind.
Weeks before my own mother died, she seemed to degenerate into a person we could hardly recognize. She talked to invisible entities around the room; became quite attached to a repulsive and abusive maid-care-giver that my brother foolishly hired to take care of her physical needs (going potty, sponge bath, feeding). When I told my mom that I was going to replace her care-giver becuase I caught her sleeping while my mom’s oxygen gauge showed zero, my mom became very upset and accused us of all sort of things… I HATED that maid, but as long as my mother lived, we had to keep the repulsive creature around. But we did hire a “second.” Of course, my mom died when I was in school, my brother at work and that repulsive maid was eating her second breakfast!
What I am getting at is this: sometimes very old people are NOT in their right minds.
I would do what is best with the money by donating it to charity.
You are judging someone that your sister knew more about than you do. Your sister trusted you with a dying wish. You should not let her down. It is not your job to judge anyone. Do as she asked and as she trusted you would do.
Follow your sisters wishes…
well if her morality is the only thing keeping you from doing it, then give him the money. unless the money can buy you better tollerance/respect for other people’s ideas/beliefs
split it. on one hand, it was your sister’s wish, and on the other, you are the one that has to live with the decision. if you split it between a charity and the show, you are making yourself a little more ok with it and still following her wishes
You should do as your sister wanted.
This is your sisters money and she made sure to ask you to do what she wanted with it. I think you should respect her wishes and do as she wanted.
If you really care about your sister and who she was and what she was all about, you will do as she wishes. It’s not about you agreeing with and OKing her morals and values. It’s about you respecting her last wishes. If you can disrespect her last wishes and live with yourself, then by all means have at it.
Maybe your sister thought with her giving this money to him it might make a difference in his life he might turn it around and be moral like you wish.
The choice is up to you really the money is legally yours but your sister did ask you to do something with it.
Your the legal beneficiary, keep it, it is yours. If she wanted the guy to have it, she should have made him the beneficiary, she did not. The law is on your side, keep it.
Not yours to decide;It’s not your money. But sure, if your word has no value…why not, do whatever you want
I would donate to a better cause. Make sure that is who she listened to. I would only donate a $1,000.00 to someone I did not think was God fearing and morally appropriate. My sister would forgive me beyond the grave. Do what you want with the rest of it, she trusted you.
I think you should do what your sister asked you to do regardless of the shows content. She must have had her reasons. We all have skeletons and i don’t think it’s anyone elses place to judge. Maybe she is looking down and it’s a big test to see how you respond. What if the shoe were on the other foot?
If you made a promise I think you should honor your word. I know you may feel it is the wrong thing to do, but God will count it as good if you keep your word. That’s why I make sure of all the details before making a promise. My word is my bond.
i m a frank person let me tel u tis :u should have better giv it to the persons ur sis wanted to giv it to or..man, u will regret tis for life….ur sister most probably will haunt u..dang hard to say but i think u had better respect ur sister’s dying wishes..
Before your sister died she wanted you to donate her Life Ins. Policy to a guy that she used to listen to his talk show. You found out that he is not what he pretends to be so, now you changed your mind, and would like to donate the money to charity. You also want to know if you should give the money to your local nursing home because they are going to have a Charity drive, to help buy extending medicines to the elderly that reside there? It is so hard in making a right decision ,because you do not know if the charity you choose will really spend the money on the cause they are in need of. Why don’t you donate some of it but not all to see if what they promised they did do it, and if you really see that they are on the level than donate more of it but making sure that you saw with your own eyes that it is being used for that. Under any circumstances give the money to that man, you will only make him richer.
I would call Mr. Henson. See if he knows your sister. If he doesn’t then don’t give him the money. If he says he does, verify that he really did. What did she look like, etc. Was she on any meds that could have tripped up her thinking process? Just because you don’t care for his brand of entertainment, doesn’t give you right to tell someone else what to do. If he knew her, then I would give him the money. If she was delusional, then give that half to charity. Good luck
It’s in YOUR name, and she wants you to give it to someone ELSE? Sorry, but it doesn’t sound like she was of sound mind. Since it’s legally in your name, it’s yours. Sounds like you have better ideas of what to do with it.
p.s. $50,000 won’t make a difference in your life?…wow, I wish I could say that! Good luck with your decision.
I think it’s important to follow through with your sister’s dying wish. How you feel about him and his work isn’t what’s important – following her wish is.
If your sister had all her mental faculties in tact. Do as she asked.
If not, use your best judgment and ask her to understand.
Since this was your sister’s wish, and you are the executor of her will, you must follow through. It doesn’t matter what you think of her choice of charity or how the money is spent, it was her decision and you need to carry it out.
Well, if that $50,000.00 isn’t enough to make a difference in your life, then you should keep your word to your sister. Next time one of your relatives is giving you something, you should think twice before making a promise that you just may not be able to keep. You sound like a person who makes snap judgements on others. If you have so much money, then I would think that you already would have done something to help the people in question. Do what you want to, as you are the type who enjoys making judgements & ignoring promises. You are the typical greedy type who is easily swayed by outsiders. Shame on you for giving your word. Only you can make this right.
give it to tim, he lives in the ghetto
well, send it to me.. it will make alot of difference in my life…