As a high schooler, I know that most of my peers seldom look into things before involving themselves in it.
Sure, there are the exceptions, but I’m not talking about the exceptions.
At my school there are flyers in the nurse’s office with adoption agencies. I took one, to humor myself, and there was nothing on the psychological ramifications of relinquishing your child. I was apalled.
Any thoughts?
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Sure the school should also help those students who may be pregnant go see a therapist so that they may also not make the same mistake again and talk about their feelings. Giving up a child for adoption is never an easy thing for adults let alone a teenager who have so many emotions at that age and so many things they have yet to experience.
Schools should NOT be a part of adoption at all–frankly they aren’t there to “help” kids become parents or discuss parental options. That’s icky.
I do think school can and should be able to call community resources/social workers in cooperation with the child’s request–frankly the community resources should just have a group session for teenagers that go through all of the options which includes adoption, abortion, parenting classes available, day/school care options, public housing and food stamps followed by a 1/1 with the high schooler once they’ve thought through their options etc—social worker should be ther to convince anyone of anything.
But schools themselves should seriously not be in the position of handing out flyers either way.
Most schools support what makes them look good, and anything in the stream of their conservative ideals. You don’t see any pamphlets on the psychological ramifications of joining the military, in your counselor’s office do you? And yet, there are are hundreds and hundreds of glistening, informational booklets in hopes of persuading you to “do your American duty”. Same with their abstinence counseling.
Answer: Schools should never take the place of your parents when it comes to morals and beliefs.
Adoption agencies are required by law, to have the birth mother go through counseling to be prepared for the adoption. The negatives, and harsh realities of adoption are brought to light during that time. A good adoption agency, will be sure the birth mother is Truly ok with her decision before finalizing the adoption.
Are there organisations out there who do the sort of flyers which would have this information? If so, maybe you could get one, take it to the nurse, and suggest she gives them out instead – or at least has both available.
My genral opinion is that high schools should stop suggesting that having a baby will ruin your life, and all that will change is you will be up all night and have to change dirty diapers. Instead I would like to see the message that babies are work and it is best to wait until you are older in a committed relationship, but if you do get pregnant it is not the end of the world, the child will still be a great joy even if the timing wasn’t ideal.
In the USA, the federal Infant Adoption Awareness Act, passed around 2000, allowed the adoption agencies to put the flyers in the schools. it also allows agencies to come to schools and talk(preach) about the “benefits” of adoption to babies and to teenagers who surrender their children.
I think this is terrible and should be illegal, but it is now legal.
Schools should not be involved at all. As a taxpayer, that is not what I want for my granddaughter to hear in school.
ETA: the violations that have happened to parents and children have historical significance and are sitll happening today. This should be taught as part of history and social studies in school. Students should learn about these human rights violations and civil rights violations just as they learn about other wrongs.
but adoption should not be promoted by agencies, coming to the school. This is a violation in itself. Some of the agencies are religious, which violates the separation of church and state.