hes 33 and im 23 we met two months ago and began dating. we hit it off instantly. we got along 98% of the time. most of our dates were spent hiking, trying new restaurants, checking out new movies. we talked daily on the phone as well and on weekends we would just stay in and watch movies and have hot chocolate. we have the same sense of humor so there was never a dull moment between us.
this weekend we had a disagreement. i asked him about being “exclusive” and he said he was under the assumption that we were. i said i had some doubts because he was a litte hurt from his ex gf (a 24 yr old who he was engaged to that cheated on him and left him” and he seemed a little jaded by love but all i asked of him was that he give me a fair chance and not let her actions affect how he felt about relationships or one with me. he said he had concerns because i was so young that id be a flight risk and take off on him so he said hed date me for a couple of more weeks to get a feel for me. i told him i wasnt a flight risk. then he stopped talking and dropped me off at my car 3 minutes away because he had to be up early…no hug, no kiss and he took off.
i texted him and said “maybe you should do your own thing i dont want to get hurt” and he blatantly ignored me so i sent him a text about an hour later saying “**** you then you let your ex gf get away with everything short of murder and now you are blowing me off over something petty and i called him vain” (he let her get away with all of the awful stuff she did because she was good looking)
i was overtired and stressed from nursing school not to mention i was recently diagnosed with hypothyroidism a disease which i will have to take meds for for the rest of my life. so i acted very out of character ive never cursed at him before or even been rude to him at all.
i apologized the next day and i truly was sorry. he ignored me. i tried calling him and he screened my call. so i asked him if hed ever talk to me again and he said “im not angry with you but ive completely lost interest, take care……………” then i said please dont be so cold i really care about you and he said “there is no going back with me……..”
i really care about him and we have gotten along and had a blast together for the past two months. so much so that we acted like we were the best of friends and we had great sexual chemistry and a strong mutual attraction and on saturday right before the argument we were on a date and he was excited to see me!
so i made him a care package i put all his favorit candies (sweet-tarts, swedish fish, sour patch kids, i put in some burts bees stuff because he likes having it for winter, i put a candle because he has a few in his room and then i put a gift certificate to a fancy brick oven pizzaria downtown) i also included a hand written note telling him that i know that hes been hurt in the past and that i care about him so much and i appreciate him. i also mentioned that i love the time we spend together and i really want to make him happy
do you think he will ever speak to me again? did i make a mistake sending him stuff?
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the bad thing you did was bring up his past relationship in a negative way. way out of line, but you probably already knew that. as far as the care package goes, im not sure. at this point he probably just sees you as an immature 23y old. you definitely need to give him some time and space to cool off cause if you keep bugging him it will just seem like an immature girl who is just bugging him to the point of annoyance. id say see what he says about the package and just dont try to contact him until he contacts you. wait a little over a week so you know hes had the package and time to think, then maybe contact him one last time just to try and speak your mind and see if theres anything you two can work out. give him time and space. dont be all over his nuts cause itll look like youre desperate and desperate = unattractive.
Kinsey, Jess, Michelle, and all the other names you used to post this question- seven by my count, but there may be more- the answer remains the same: you blew it, and he isn’t coming back